Dear Jennifer: In the past two years, I have lost everything,
my job, my home, my friends and I barely speak to my family. Although I
have been looking for a job, I can’t find one and I’m living with a
friend now that I barely get along with. I don’t know what to do to fix
my life and I’m having a hard time figuring out my next steps. How do I
get my life back and how do I create the stable, secure and happy life
that I want?
Jennifer’s Answer: What you are experiencing has been felt by
so many people in this past decade and it is hard when everything in
your life changes like this. Your response of sadness, fear and regret
at these changes are preventing you from creating the new life that you
want. While it may be hard to find the energy and courage to see new
possibilities for yourself, that is what you must do if anything in your
life is going to transform. You may be wondering why this has happened
to you, so let’s talk about the real reasons behind what has happened
here.
Everything enters and leaves our life at our conscious or unconscious
invitation, so it is not possible to actually ‘lose’ anything. If we
don’t appreciate what we have and wish it would go away, we disconnect
our energy from it and it must leave our life. To invite something else
in, we have to create space for it by setting an intention for it.
This process is what creates the in and out flow of people,
situations and experiences into and out of our life. When we are
grateful for what we have and appreciate every circumstance and
situation, we achieve closure with we no longer resonate with and its
outflow is graceful and effortless. The empty space is then filled with
the new things we have set our intention for.
But when we feel angry and powerless, when we hate our life
circumstances, and are upset with people and with ourselves, we create
an energetic disconnection without first creating the space for the new
to arrive. We can then find ourselves in the situation you are in, where
everything seems to leave at once and our lives are empty.
Some questions for you to consider are:
- Did you like the job you had or were you frustrated, angry, and felt limited by it?
- Did you like your friends or were they challenging and did not serve and support you in meaningful ways?
- Are you harboring resentment and anger towards your family that you have yet to resolve with them or within yourself?
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